My G.P.S. for 2009
I've a new G.P.S. for 2009. Although not a fan of resolutions, I've decided that it might be beneficial for me to listen to the wisdom of this navigating device. In 7 words:
Go Lightly!
Pay Attention!
Savor the Experience!
As some who know me can attest, I'm a woman who likes to dig deep and probe relentlessly into hearts and minds. This is close to being cursed, because all that excavating can create havoc for myself and others that I come in contact with. While I'm thinking that it can only be healthy to do a little archaeological work, not all would agree with me. Especially those that come in close contact to my probing tools!
I've also been one to work hard at mending and mediating relationships that aren't quite working. I hate misunderstanding and over the years have done my best to smooth any relational conflict out. I suppose there is real irony in that since my deep digging philosophy has created some of those conflicts. I've just clung to the idea that if we would all hang in there and work through the problems, that despite the pain, things will be okay. Very naive on my part, I suppose.
That said, I am finding as I approach this place called "middle age" (which sounds so dark ages!), that I've run out of energy to put into those dysfunctional relationships. I am finding that I am a bit indifferent and not as willing to push through the hard stuff, particularly if a relationship has turned toxic. This indifference has bothered me. It's a new emotion that doesn't fit well. However, a recent conversation with a friend, has helped me to see that perhaps there is something to be learned from this indifference. Perhaps it is time that I learn to GO LIGHTLY!
To Go Lightly involves letting go of those relationships that are just not working and letting them be. It means that I will be cordial and polite, but I will not try and fix the relationship. I will stay on the surface of emotions and stay away from dangerous topics. I will give up my own expectations for what a proper relationship should look like. I will not push for deep discussion, but rather I will cultivate my own weak skills at small talk and chit-chat. I will do my best to be quiet and listen! (Ok, friends you can pick yourself up off the floor now!) Yes, I resolve to be quiet and listen. This leads me to navigational guide # 2: Pay Attention!
Go Lightly!
Pay Attention!
Savor the Experience!
As some who know me can attest, I'm a woman who likes to dig deep and probe relentlessly into hearts and minds. This is close to being cursed, because all that excavating can create havoc for myself and others that I come in contact with. While I'm thinking that it can only be healthy to do a little archaeological work, not all would agree with me. Especially those that come in close contact to my probing tools!
I've also been one to work hard at mending and mediating relationships that aren't quite working. I hate misunderstanding and over the years have done my best to smooth any relational conflict out. I suppose there is real irony in that since my deep digging philosophy has created some of those conflicts. I've just clung to the idea that if we would all hang in there and work through the problems, that despite the pain, things will be okay. Very naive on my part, I suppose.
That said, I am finding as I approach this place called "middle age" (which sounds so dark ages!), that I've run out of energy to put into those dysfunctional relationships. I am finding that I am a bit indifferent and not as willing to push through the hard stuff, particularly if a relationship has turned toxic. This indifference has bothered me. It's a new emotion that doesn't fit well. However, a recent conversation with a friend, has helped me to see that perhaps there is something to be learned from this indifference. Perhaps it is time that I learn to GO LIGHTLY!
To Go Lightly involves letting go of those relationships that are just not working and letting them be. It means that I will be cordial and polite, but I will not try and fix the relationship. I will stay on the surface of emotions and stay away from dangerous topics. I will give up my own expectations for what a proper relationship should look like. I will not push for deep discussion, but rather I will cultivate my own weak skills at small talk and chit-chat. I will do my best to be quiet and listen! (Ok, friends you can pick yourself up off the floor now!) Yes, I resolve to be quiet and listen. This leads me to navigational guide # 2: Pay Attention!
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