When Endings are New Beginnings
When Endings are New Beginnings Part 1:
In varying degrees, we humans spend quite a bit of energy and time dealing with relationships in our lives. Relationships come in all shapes and sizes. We inherit them, fall into them, pursue them and find them by chance. We ignore them, neglect them and run away from them. Relationships can be casual, enduring, passionate and temporary.
And while effort goes into all phases of a relationship, it is at the beginning and ending of these relationships that we experience the most intense emotions.
For myself, dealing with the complexities of the varied relationships in my own life has been the focus of most of my emotional energy. In the last year, however, there has been a cosmic shift in my overall approach to relationships. My own wrangling with relationships over time is most evidenced in my writing. Over the years I’ve kept journals, written poetry and blogged, with most of my words pertaining to the ebb and flow of important relationships in my life, with friends, family and spiritual relationships heading the list.
Fifty isn’t the magic number, but when that number could be officially used to describe my age, I coincidently experienced a mental earthquake! I am hoping that what happened is more an “act of God” rather than a precursor to dementia! Whatever it was, the result was that for the first time in my life, I didn’t feel like writing. As you can see in this blog, my last entry was July of 2009, with nary a word until this moment. Ironically, finding peace and contentment in my approach to relationships resulted in a sort of shut down in my mental contemplations. It’s been a little disconcerting, but I’ve chosen to go with the flow and enjoy the quiet. I used to say that my mind was my own worst enemy. This year of quiet has given it a good rest.
I now find myself doing a lot of observing. Three young ladies in their early twenties live in my house. There is much coming and going and relationship drama to be observed. I have friends and family who are experiencing their own beginning and endings in important relationships. I realize that it is difficult to learn from anyone’s experience except your own, but I feel compelled to share a few things that I’ve learned in my own struggles with endings and beginnings. Sometimes it can be helpful and encouraging to know that you are not alone in what you are experiencing.
I realize that wisdom is relative to perspective and truth be told, as I ponder what I’ve learned in the course of my life I have to wonder why it took me so long to comprehend concepts that seem so obvious from this side of things. I am choosing to articulate the life lessons that I’ve learned to help pin them down in my own mind. If sharing my thoughts resonates with anyone else out there then all the better!
Stay tuned!
Lindylou
In varying degrees, we humans spend quite a bit of energy and time dealing with relationships in our lives. Relationships come in all shapes and sizes. We inherit them, fall into them, pursue them and find them by chance. We ignore them, neglect them and run away from them. Relationships can be casual, enduring, passionate and temporary.
And while effort goes into all phases of a relationship, it is at the beginning and ending of these relationships that we experience the most intense emotions.
For myself, dealing with the complexities of the varied relationships in my own life has been the focus of most of my emotional energy. In the last year, however, there has been a cosmic shift in my overall approach to relationships. My own wrangling with relationships over time is most evidenced in my writing. Over the years I’ve kept journals, written poetry and blogged, with most of my words pertaining to the ebb and flow of important relationships in my life, with friends, family and spiritual relationships heading the list.
Fifty isn’t the magic number, but when that number could be officially used to describe my age, I coincidently experienced a mental earthquake! I am hoping that what happened is more an “act of God” rather than a precursor to dementia! Whatever it was, the result was that for the first time in my life, I didn’t feel like writing. As you can see in this blog, my last entry was July of 2009, with nary a word until this moment. Ironically, finding peace and contentment in my approach to relationships resulted in a sort of shut down in my mental contemplations. It’s been a little disconcerting, but I’ve chosen to go with the flow and enjoy the quiet. I used to say that my mind was my own worst enemy. This year of quiet has given it a good rest.
I now find myself doing a lot of observing. Three young ladies in their early twenties live in my house. There is much coming and going and relationship drama to be observed. I have friends and family who are experiencing their own beginning and endings in important relationships. I realize that it is difficult to learn from anyone’s experience except your own, but I feel compelled to share a few things that I’ve learned in my own struggles with endings and beginnings. Sometimes it can be helpful and encouraging to know that you are not alone in what you are experiencing.
I realize that wisdom is relative to perspective and truth be told, as I ponder what I’ve learned in the course of my life I have to wonder why it took me so long to comprehend concepts that seem so obvious from this side of things. I am choosing to articulate the life lessons that I’ve learned to help pin them down in my own mind. If sharing my thoughts resonates with anyone else out there then all the better!
Stay tuned!
Lindylou
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